Technology now a day is so advance that smartphones are so affordable and almost every individual from middle class and above can afford one. As a result, social media is becoming part of a person’s everyday life.
Thanks to social media, it now only takes a few clicks to know the latest trends and events around the world. Thanks to social media, we become updated on our friend’s activities and experiences. Thanks to social media, communication is now made easy among love ones.
Indeed, there are a lot of things that we have to thank social media for. However, aside from the good things, I’ve realized that there is also a certain kind of fear that social media and technology has brought to people. This fear is quite simple and is often overlooked by individuals. We call this the “Fear of Missing Out” or “FOMO”.
Oxford Dictionary defines FOMO as the feeling of “anxiety” that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere.
“Fear Of Missing Out? — I don’t have that kind of fear! Or do I?”
Try to assess yourself by asking these questions:
- Has constantly checking Facebook, Twitter, and other social networking sites, become a part of your daily routine?
- Are you unable to decline an invitation to a party or gathering from your friendseven if you have work to do?
- Is there a feeling that you should be out with friends whenever you stay at home during weekends or rest days?
- Are you one of the first to own the latest model of gadgets, among your friends?
- Is there a feeling of envy whenever you see someone from your friends list post a photo of their vacation?
- Do you hate the feeling of not being able to watch an episode of a TV show or the latest movies in theater?
- Are you able to delay gratification and buy only something if you need it?
If majority of your answers is “YES”, then you might unconsciously have experienced FOMO.
What are the effects of the Fear Of Missing Out?
- You loose money
You spend more money on something you don’t really need instead of getting it at a cheaper price after a few more months. This extra expense can actually be used for investment or paying more important fees.
- You become stressed.
Unnecessary stress builds up. You’ll feel pressured to work harder to earn more money – but that is only to go on a very expensive vacation, purchase the latest gadgets, or have an exaggerated Fine Dining experience.
- You become unfocused and often procrastinate.
It affects your productivity because of spending too much time doing things that are unnecessary as of the moment such as too much social media.
Even I admit that I tend to manifest FOMO and would give in at times. So here are a few ways that I hope can help face this fear.
How can we avoid FOMO?
- Admit it
The First step to cure something is knowing what kind of disease it is. You can only get rid of FOMO if you yourself learn to accept the fact that you have this kind of fear.
- Saying “NO” is not a bad thing
You’ll only realize that you are not missing out something if you yourself learn to personally miss out the things that you thought were needed. It turns out these are only your “wants” and not your “needs”
- Focus on something that will make you more productive.
Do something that makes it worthwhile. The fear of missing out usually originates when a person has nothing to do. Sooner or later, you’ll find yourself preoccupied doing things that you love.
- Set a long term goal and stay focused with it.
Set your own long term goal. Whenever you feel that you are tempted to purchase or do something, always ask yourself if it will contribute to your long term goal.
- Make yourself known for your good traits and not by your material possessions.
Be the person who can make others change for the better. Having friends who accept/cherish you for who you are and not for what you have is probably the best investment that you can have.
“Success is not money, cars fame or material possessions
but the lives you touched positively.”
-Ifeanyi Enoch Onuoha.
I hope this article taught you something about how to achieve success.
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