It’s been a week since 2016 ended. That was quick! :p One thing that I can say is, 2016 has been a rollercoaster ride for me. It was the year where I had a lot of ups and downs. Ups meaning the best times and downs meaning the worst times in my life.
In 2016, I got the chance to be invited in a Christian church where in I started to know more about God and at the same time develop new friends whom I believe are real and genuine. (ehem, ehem, churchmates :p).
On the other hand, 2016 was also the year when I somehow got depressed and became full of negativity. I came to a point where I simply wanted to lock myself in my room forever and just disappear due to a lot of thoughts and frustrations on my mind. I guess, I simply was not able to cope up with the things that are happening in my life during those times.
It was thanks to those people who continued to reach out to me that I believe that I was able to somehow overcome those depressive days of my life. Thanks to that, I started to reach out with old friends once again and everything finally seemed to fall back into place.
However, on the last month of the year, just about 2 days before my birthday, I received an unexpected news that made me ask, “Why this soon?” On December 10, 2016, I finally got diagnosed of Hypertension (cause: hereditary and improper diet). Hence, as I just turned 26 years old, I’m already on a lifetime (hopefully not) BP maintenance drug medication and is at risk of possible heart attack if not controlled properly. I knew that majority of my family members are diagnosed with a heart disease/ cardio problem and that I could eventually get diagnosed with it as well but I didn’t expect it to be this soon.
In relation to this, I decided to write this short article and point out some of my realizations as I got diagnosed of a possible lifetime illness. Initially, I could have gone back to my room and get depressed once again, but I just know, doing that would actually cause my condition to worsen as some of the predominating factors of this illness is “stress and a sedentary lifestyle.”
I hope anyone who may read this article would be able to learn and take home something that could change their lives into the better.
I believe that every one of us knows who Steve Jobs is. If not, just google the founder of Apple and you’ll know who he is. I mentioned him because of one memorable quote that he mentioned in one of his speeches. He said, “If you live each day as it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right”. Truth be told, you wouldn’t know when will be your last day on earth, but if today would be that day, how do you plan to live it? This question has been asked numerous times already and I believe most of us would say, “I’ll meet my love ones, spend time with them, tell them that I love them and that they are the most important in my life”. True enough, in my case, I would definitely be doing this. But I believe it doesn’t end there… Because there are a lot more things that we definitely would like to do on our last days. Would one day be enough? I guess it won’t. So let’s change the question a bit…
“If you only have a month to live (30 days), How do you plan to live it?” Here are my thoughts:
As mentioned above, I believe most of us will be doing this. We all strive in our everyday lives because of our love ones. So above everything else, be sure to make them feel really important and loved on each day that you are alive.
“I’ll start removing stressors in my life.”
Removing stressors in your life doesn’t necessarily mean cutting ties to people you don’t like, nor suddenly quitting a job that you got stuck with because of financial needs (though sometimes doing so could also be good for you if these things really don’t make you happy). Removing stressors in your life simply means to quit overthinking about things. It won’t get you anywhere. More so, it will just cause you more stress. Later than you know, you already spent days worrying about simple things which doesn’t really matter much in your life. Start living a stress free life.
“I’ll start to embrace Forgiveness and Gratitude.”
In connection to stressors, I believe one of the things that causes stress are people whom you are unable to forgive. They may have done something bad to you and just thinking about that experience stresses you and that really isn’t a good thing. Knowing you only have a limited time on earth, It’s time for you to start forgiving these people and start asking forgiveness as well to people whom you may have wronged in the past.
Also, don’t forget to forgive yourself for any mistake or wrong decision that you’ve done in the past. It can be hard, but you’ll just realize that letting go of grudges and embracing forgiveness might be one of healthiest decisions that you can make in your lifetime. In general, the only person hurt and impacted by holding onto bitterness and resentment is the person who is unable to forgive. Just be thankful for the lessons that they taught you and start moving on with your life. Embrace forgiveness for your own well-being.
“I’ll start living one day at a time.”
Ever since I was 23 years old, I really wanted to become a successful entrepreneur. Back then, I ventured into a franchise in which I somehow lost hundred thousands of my savings. From that point on, I was somehow really focused on earning and recovering financial losses. I had an online selling business, a micro lending business (which also incurred financial losses), I was an insurance agent, and I had plans of opening up a burger restaurant. I had so many plans on how to become successful. I was trying to accomplish each of them as soon as possible. Later did I realized, I was so focused on earning money that it was no longer enjoyable.
Why do you want to become successful? Isn’t one of the main reasons to be able to live your life easily? Is it not to enjoy life? I’m not one to generalize, but I believe this is actually the reason why we all strive for success. Knowing that your time is limited, you’ll a have a change in perspective. You’ll somehow realize living each day without rushing things is great. You’ll start to appreciate the simple joys of each day.
Just because things that happen now, don’t seem to bring you closer to your long term goal doesn’t mean that they’re impeding your progress. That is actually an important part of the journey to where you’re supposed to be. Stop rushing, appreciate each day and live life without overthinking about the future. Embrace the present, and appreciate the small joys that each day offers.
“I’ll start to pursue frozen dreams.”
Yes! I said to start living each day one at a time, but that doesn’t mean that you should give up on your dreams. Most often than not, people would get stuck in a job that is not really fulfilling for them because of financial needs. As a result, they start to take for granted the dreams that they once had in the past. It is good to be financially secured yes. But above all else, I believe perusing something that you dream of is really important; because that is what will most likely complete a missing part of your life.
As 2017 starts, I’ll be back in the corporate world. I decided to close down each business that I initially started and go back to a full time 40hrwk/week schedule (main reason is to cut down stress and focus on health recovery). Nevertheless, my dream of becoming a successful entrepreneur doesn’t end. I know, eventually, I’ll be back into that field; because our dreams are our calling.
They have always been there, they were never gone. Yes, there may be some rationalization that prevents us from pursuing them such as the fear of financial loss, thoughts about being too old to pursue that dream, fear of hearing negative things from people around you, or simply overthinking about the negative results that could happen because of pursuing it. Surely, it’ll be a big risk and a big leap of faith, but in the end, you’ll realize that you never really had anything to loose. What would be the worst that could happen? Maybe you would fail, but at least you would’ve tried while you still had the chance. As they say, “It’s better to have tried and failed than to never have tried at all.”
“Life is too short not to share God’s word to others.”
I won’t be forcing this on anyone. (And please don’t think of it as religion because it’s simply just sharing my relationship with God.) As I started to know more about God and finally decided to accept Christ as my Lord and Savior back on March 26, 2016 (the day I decided to be baptized and publicly declare my relationship with God), I started to somehow realize that life is simply too short not to share God’s word to others. During those times, I realized that everything negative that happened in my life for the past years is actually God’s way of making me realize my need for Him.
As I learn to wholeheartedly accept Christ as my Lord and Savior, and start to develop a relationship with God, I started to learn how to let go anger, resentment, sadness, discontent and many negative things in my life. Yes, there would be times in my Christian life that I would loose focus and begin to have negative thoughts about my life and even God, but at the end of the day, there is actually no place to return to but in the arms of our Lord and Savior.
I also have to admit that I’m not a 100% obedient in this realization. I’m actually the timid type and is often not someone who could approach, talk, and share God to a stranger, but with the new light and life that I encountered as I started to follow Christ, I just know, more people need Him. And the best gift that we could give to others is introducing God to them and more so, sharing the gift of Salvation through Christ.
P.S.1: Should you wish to know and have a relationship with God, I believe that the 1st thing that you need to do is to accept Christ wholeheartedly as your Lord and Savior. As Romans 10:9 says “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Therefore, should you wish to start that relationship now with Him, I encourage you to pray and reflect this short prayer below:
“Lord Jesus, I thank you for dying on the cross for my sins, and I accept you in my heart as my Lord and Savior. Thank You for hearing my prayers and loving me unconditionally. Please give me the strength, wisdom, and determination to walk in the center of Your will. This I pray in Jesus’ name, Amen.”
P.S. 2: If you actually prayed the prayer above wholeheartedly and would like to know more about God, feel free to leave a comment or send me an email. We’ll be more than willing to invite you at Church for more encounters with God. 🙂
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything: all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure… these things just fall away in the face of death… leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked; there is no reason not to follow your heart.”
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I hope this article taught you something about how to achieve success.
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