Maybe Your Journey Is Not About Finding Love, Maybe It’s About…

Love is in the air. Indeed, February is the month where you’d see so many love birds (couples) roaming around the streets. If you’re one of the lucky ones, you’d probably be one of these people that I’m pertaining to. What I can say is, “Congratulations on finally meeting your other half!” Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t a hate post about “singlehood” nor a bitter post about being “forever alone”.

Since there were a couple of people asking me why I haven’t been dating anyone for quite a while, I guess I simply decided to write this short article to share my thoughts regarding the said topic. I have to admit, I really don’t have a good answer to their question but here it goes. 😛

I don’t know if you’ve experienced this but if you are single or was once hurt by a failed relationship, sometimes your world gets so lonely and you start thinking about all the times you started to like another person, got your heartbroken and all the times you wished you had someone by your side.

It just feels like love is a totally different language — a foreign concept that you hear people talking about but you really don’t understand. It just feels like love isn’t in the cards for you.

While that’s something you’ll never know for sure, I believe that everyone of us has our own journey; and it’s not simply just searching for your other half. You may not feel it yet, but your journey may actually be more than just what you’ve thought it was all about.

  • Maybe your journey is not about finding love, maybe it’s about purpose.

More than a year ago, I wrote an article entitled: “How To Find Your True Passion In Life”. Maybe your journey is all about that. It’s not just about finding love; maybe it’s about finding your passion and following it. Maybe it’s about finding a new hobby, a new talent or a new idea that could be the next best thing.

Maybe it’s about moving to a different place and finding another side of life that excites you. Maybe it’s about traveling and roaming the world until you find meaning in your life or until you figure out what exactly you’re born to do. Life isn’t simply just about finding love, it’s about finding your passion and purpose in life.

  • Maybe your journey is not about finding love, maybe it’s about inspiration.

I’m not really a people person. Truth be told, I would prefer staying in my room playing video games or watching “Koreanobelas” and anime rather than going out with a bunch of people whom I’m not really that close with. But one thing I realized, it’s actually through meeting different kinds of people that we see the joy and wonders of life.

Your journey may not be about finding love, but just maybe, just maybe, it’s about meeting people who will inspire you to live better, to be better, and to be someone whom you never thought you’d be. Maybe it’s about meeting people who can enlighten you with their wisdom, with their stories and the moments that changed their lives.

Maybe it’s about being inspired by yourself. It’s about doing things alone so you can truly listen to your thoughts, so you can make decisions that are not influenced by anyone else. Life isn’t simply about finding love, it’s about finding your inspiration to be the best that you can be.

  • Maybe your journey is not about finding love, maybe it’s about letting go.

If you’re in the Philippines and active on social media, I’m sure that you’ve watched one of Jolibee’s latest commercial entitled “Vow”. I have to admit, in just a few seconds at the end of the ad, my “kilig” turned to “tears”. I just liked how the commercial showed what loving another person without expecting in return is; but I wished it just didn’t end the way it ended. :‘(

Moving on, your journey is not simply about finding someone to love but I believe it also includes letting go of all the ones you loved before. Maybe your journey is about redefining love and what it means to you. Maybe it’s about letting go of all the remains of your heartbreak so you can love with all your heart again. Maybe for now, your journey is about forgetting your past and focusing on moving on. Life isn’t simply about finding love, it’s also about completely moving on before finding someone else.

  • Maybe your journey is not about finding love, maybe it’s about loving and rebuilding yourself.

At the start of this year during one of my quiet times with God, I believe that He have me a word; and that word is “rebuild”. I just knew that this was His promise to me this year. He’ll be making wonders in different areas of my life and that includes physical, emotional, spiritual and any more.

But before He can do so, I need to learn to love myself more than I used to. You can’t expect to experience good things to happen if you yourself doubt that you deserve what you are hoping for. You also can’t expect others to love you if you don’t actually love yourself.

Once you learn to do so, you’ll eventually be able to give more love that you never thought you could give to others as well. Sooner or later, you’ll just realize that someone is already reciprocating the kind of love that you are sharing with him or her. Life isn’t simply about finding love, it’s about loving yourself the way you want others to love you.

“Love is the greatest gift that God has given us. It’s free.”

-Taraji P. Henson

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  • I agree. One of my friend is an amazing scientist and has achieved so much in life at her very young age!!! She’s single! Its always about finding the one! But that one, need not be a person, it could be passion!!!

  • I guess not everything is about finding love. Sometimes finding our purpose and inspiration and also being of help to others really matter more.

  • dmhyf

    As the song goes, learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all. We can not love another person well, unless we know how to love ourselves first. We cannot offer to others what we do not know well ourselves. – Fred

  • Michelle Bugante

    Unless you’re sure that you really want to be with someone for the rest of your life, I think there’s no need to pressure ourselves to find a partner. Like you said, there are many ways to live a fulfilling life. However, if you think that you need to be with someone to be completely happy, then I don’t think there’s also something wrong with going out of your way to provide yourself with opportunities to meet people. It all depends on your goal 🙂

  • I experienced failed relationships in the past. It was energy draining putting all the attention on the hurt. So, instead of harboring the unhappy emotions, I socialized with other people. I started to appreciate my family and friends whom I was not able to notice before. Thanks God for our families and true friends. They do not leave us no matter how broken we are.

  • I couldn’t agree more i think travelling can be the best way to celebrate valentine’s day

  • Tiffany Yong

    I’ve done so… letting go, finding purpose and inspiring. I’m so glad now to have found my boyfriend, and he had made whatever I’m doing currently much more meaningful and purposeful~

  • Althea Penelope

    Yup. Love is the greatest gift from above. and it’s free. so why be sad on Valentines day if you are single? we have family to celebrate to!

  • Kat

    Just maybe. 🙂 I have not entertained that thought anymore. Love is love is love and it comes in many forms. Right now, I love my family, friends, dogs, country and God. I get inspired to do different things, to travel and many more. God made me a complete person so no need to search a “half”. If someone comes along, I consider that an additional blessing.

  • Shub RainbowDiaries

    Love is in the air when Valentine’s day is near…I think we should appreciate love every single moment. I liked some of the points in this post example: Love is all about letting go and re-discovering yourself…

  • This is a heartfelt post which contains truths we must realize. Life isn`t simply about romantic relationships. God has blessed us with a beautiful and abundant life full of opportunities. Thank you for sharing this. Finding our purpose, inspiring others, letting go and rebuilding ourselves are very essential to find ourselves and live our lives to the full.

    ❀Grace ❀